A few days ago I came home beardless! I`ve been growing a beard for several months and it has grown thick indeed! [my wife warned me about posting a photo or I`ll lose half of my readers “AKA 5-6 people” instantly] :p
Anyhow, my daughter welcomed me with a cheerful waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw! She`s only 4.5, I didn`t tell my wife that I was going to get rid of the beard so it`s safe to say that my daughter`s reaction was spontaneous
I asked her why the “waaaaaaw”; her answer was that I look nicer this way.
To be honest, it made me think, do we have expectations about looks from that early age? Do we programme our children to judge based on appearances?
Next day when I went to the mosque, the people whom would make-way for me and if the Imam is not present for one reason or another they would ask me to be the Imam and do the prayers,,,, didn`t! Ever since I “removed” the beard they have never asked me to! I`m still the same person for crying out loud! If my outfit is different, if I`m not using the Siwak , or if I`m clean-shaven; does that alter whom I am from the inside! Really?
I dunno, it just keeps revolving inside my head.
What do [I] do to avoid such “practice”, how do I fight it.
Well, I do some recruitment and it`s vital for me not to judge based on appearances, I write down some lines whenever I have an interview to remind myself of that.
I also keep a mini-log, on a weekly basis, of examples I found myself doing the “sin” and try to avoid them in the future by asking myself: “what made me think positively/negatively about him/her/them, what was my trigger?”
It doesn`t always work! May be in a job-setting it does, but as a social being I caught myself numerous of times falling for it.
What do YOU do? And is it something that bugs you or you just don`t give it much of a thought?